Take an hour during your week to have a sexy bath. Light candles, burn incense, play soothing classical music (or whatever you like—whatever gets you in the mood!). Fill the bath with luxurious sea salts and lie down and relax. Let your mind float away as you savor the moment and feel the stress leaving your body. If you are into essence oils, you can also rub Ylang Ylang or Lavender on to your temples to help you further relax and de-stress. Afterwards, take a quick cool shower with a sea salt body scrub to awaken calm, cool and re-energized.
Feeling a little stressed out or blue this holiday season? Eat chocolate. This sinful little indulgence provides guaranteed pleasure (some women even think it is better than sex!), and releases feel good endorphins (Serotonin) which make you feel happy, increases your body’s ability to respond sexually. It also contains PEA (phenethylamine) which stimulates the nervous system and releases endorphins as well as dopamine which increases sexual desire. For guilt-free pleasure get dark chocolate which has more of the good stuff (all of the above) and less of the bad stuff (fat and sugar).
Kiss Under the Mistletoe
Take advantage of the Mistletoe this holiday and grab your lover (or whoever is close by!) for a sexy hot kiss. Kissing increases levels of oxytocin and dopamine in the body which reduces stress and makes the stress hormone cortisol melt away.
Read a Romance
Even if you are not into romance novels, there is a lot to be said about escaping into a fictional fantasy. Romance novels can take you away to another place, and allow you to live another fantasy life, so you can forget your worries for a while. It also allows you to get out of your critical, analytical mindset; there’s no need to think about what you are reading, it’s frivolous so just enjoy. Not to mention living vicariously as you indulge in hot sex scenarios which can act like foreplay for the mind to get you in the mood. Fifty Shades of Grey anyone?
Dance, Dance, Dance!
Dancing has numerous health benefits as well as making you feel great. It delays the aging process helping you stay young, blasts away calories making you slimmer, builds muscles, and is great for the lungs and the heart. Dancing also elevates your mood by raising endorphin levels which allows you to reduce stress and depression. Not only that, but if you learn Belly dance, the art of strip tease, or pole dancing, it is also very sexy and helps boost confidence and self-esteem.
Masturbation is great for the mind, not just the body. It relieves stress, is a natural sleep sedative and releases feel good mood boosting endorphins to help fight off depression. Sexologists say that self-love is empowering while promoting vitality and self-esteem, so it also makes you a better lover because you can communicate to your partner what you like. Not only that, but masturbation is great for the body and has so many health benefits. Seriously! It improves the immune system’s function, reducing the signs of aging and menopause, and may help reduce the risk of osteoporosis in older women by increasing bone mass. It can also relieve menstrual cramps, migraine headaches and chronic back pain. And, finally, as an added bonus, masturbation (along with kegel exercises) helps build a stronger pelvic floor which leads to better pleasure, control and orgasms in both men and women. Yah for masturbation! And, you just thought it just felt good!
Erotic massage is a great way to relax, reduce stress and reconnect with your lover. It awakens the senses and activates whole-body healing, including increasing circulation while giving your skin a healthy glow, as well as releasing toxins. Plus it is a great way to create intimacy with your lover, and is a very sexy form of foreplay. It is give=give situation, as you can both trade off giving and receiving massage together. So, pick up a sensual massage oil (or make your own with olive oil and essence oils) and do some sensual healing.
De-Stress with Sex
You knew it was coming, didn’t you! Yes, SEX! It is one of the most pleasurable ways to relieve stress and like masturbation, has many health benefits too. Research shows that sex can help ease tension and anxiety, while enhancing your mood. It lowers levels of the stress hormone cortisol, as well as reducing blood pressure and also releases those great “feel good” endorphins that we all love. Not only that, but the better you feel (and less stressed you are) the more often you want sex, so it’s a dynamic cycle that only gets better and better. And, while it is great for your mood and mind, sex is awesome for your body as it burns calories like any other physical activity and is a great workout. Finally, sex helps you sleep better and leads to a deeper more revitalizing sleep, which may be just what you need this time of year.